When Shweta, Josh, and I started writing this blog for all of you I was at the young age of nineteen. Although many may think this would be a disadvantage for me because I have not experienced as much as my blog partners, I like to think of it as an advantage. Fresh out of high school and just learning how to live on my own with out my parent’s support has given me a “one-up” when writing this blog.
This video is exactly what I want to share with my mom!
My parents were huge supporters for me when I was growing up. They were both very involved in my activities and what was happening in my life, but on the other hand, they gave me the space to be independent and learn on my own. They made rules and they stuck to them. I think as parents this is a hard balance to find. Young teens, as you may know, think they know everything and this is SO TRUE. I can say this now because I understand the way I acted a few years back, and I didn’t realize at the time that my parents were just trying to help. All those times I argued and screamed at them for not letting me do something because I THOUGHT I was old enough and that my parents just didn’t take me seriously. Even though I am a very stubborn person, and this is so hard to admit, I am very thankful for what my parents did when I was a teenager.
Going through high school your teen will be experiencing many of the things we talked about in this blog. Prom, social apps, television shows, relationships, and many more will fill the lives of your teen, and we want you to stand strong and stay informed. As we have stated in previous posts it is important for you to stay involved in what your child is up to, even if they do not agree with you at this time in their life.
We want to recognize you, as a parent, with much respect. Josh, Shweta, and I do not have children of our own but do realize, parenting, is the hardest job in the world. Being responsible for someone else’s life can be stressful, alarming, and a lot of work; but at the same time rewarding and well worth every minute.
Parenting is even more stressful and complicated these days because of messages from the media that sometimes “blur the reflection” of your teen’s identity. That is why it is important as parents to be there for your children as they move ahead in life and discover themselves. Support your child for who he or she wants to become. Reassure to your child that he or she is beautiful and loved no matter what their choices or mistakes. I believe that the best life lessons are learned through mistakes.
We want you to keep a few things in mind as we say farewell to our blog:
- We are all unique and different and your child may be too
- It is important to be involved in your child’s life
- Stand strong and stay informed
- The media is a huge part in the generation your child is growing up in so keep them informed and let them teach you as well
The most important thing I want to say in this blog is, even though your kids aren’t thanking you now for being in their business, monitoring where they are or where they go, asking them who they are texting, etc. they will thank you one day! When that day comes you will feel like the most accomplished person in the world (that is what my mom said when I thanked her). During all the fights and the screaming you can just remind yourself that one day it will all be worth it because your child will be prepared for the real world.
I have included some fun videos for you guys to enjoy while reading and to get a good laugh for the day. Also, here are some blog links that you can refer to for future reference. Go through these, or you might as well create your own to let the world know about your own experiences! Reach out when you need help to clear some blurred reflections, and give back when you have your own experiences to share.
Salafia, B. Class Lecture. September, 2013.